The first tip Buser and Sternes share is to not rush back into dating.  “Divorce is one of the most painful experiences in our lives,” Buser says. “And the natural tendency is to look to women as an antidote for the pain.”  The psychologists suggest asking yourself some key questions to determine if you’ve dealt with your pain enough to pursue dating.  This includes asking if you are okay living alone, if you have reconnected with your friends and family, and if you are free from constant thoughts about your divorce.  If you can answer yes to all three, then you can finally put yourself out there and move on.

Another tip Buser and Sternes have is to be yourself.  It’s unlikely you will meet the girl of your dreams pretending to like something you don’t, so go after what you are truly passionate about to find women with similar interests.  This is another reason it is important to take some time before dating because many men need the time to figure out who they are and what they want to do.  Their whole life might need to be re-evaluated so they can once again discover what drives them in life.

Finally, it is important for men not to hide their divorce.  Buser and Sternes suggest working your divorce into the initial conversation with your date so there are no surprises later “It’s not something to be ashamed of, but I do think it’s relevant and tells your date where your head is likely to be,” Buser says.

To read more dating advice, view the original article from The Sydney Morning Herald, by clicking here.

To buy “A Guy’s Only Guide to Getting Over Divorce,” you can visit Amazon by clicking here.

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The National Review says the book is “a helpful roadmap for concerned fathers that tackles difficult issues.”  Dr. Armand Nicholi Jr., a professor of psychiatry at Harvard, agrees that the book is an excellent read: “No one interested in what girls experience growing up in our culture today – and the impact that parents, especially fathers, have on the experience – can afford to miss reading this book.”

Click here to read more about the book at Dr. Meg Meeker’s website.

You can purchase the book at Amazon by clicking here.

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Over half of American marriages end in divorce, and every year another 500,000 men become single fathers; shockingly, 95% of these divorced dads do not have primary custody of their children. In his book, BE A GREAT DIVORCED DAD, Dr. Kenneth Condrell gives single dads everywhere an indispensable guide to making the transition from husband/father to loving and involved single parent, even if the custody arrangement only allows two weekends a month.

BE A GREAT DIVORCED DAD is a practical guide filled with empathetic advice, not a collection of theoretical double-talk.  Dr. Condrell is a psychologist with 30 years of experience as a family therapist, but he is also the divorced father of three– his experiences provide a perfect background to help other divorced dads through the maze of single parenting challenges.  With clear detail and effective examples, BE A GREAT DIVORCED DAD addresses the pressing issues that arise after custody is resolved, including the following.

• How to avoid the most common divorced dad pitfalls
• Does a failed marriage mean a failed parent?
• Moving on: the challenge of dating new people (and explaining to the children).
• Making the most of time with the kids.
• Dealing with birthdays and holidays.

Divorce can be an opportunity for tremendous healing and growth, but newly divorced fathers need the insights of those who have been through the experience. Dr. Condrell’s BE A GREAT DIVORCED DAD is filled with the guidance and support that single dads need to not only tackle the emotional and logistical dilemmas of divorce, but to become– or remain– loving, effective parents.

Excerpt:

Be a Great Divorced Dad is written expressly and directly for dads to show them how to make a successful transition from husband/father to single dad.  It directly answers the question: “How can I be an effective parent when I typically see my children only every other weekend?”

The time after divorce is not only one of personal emotional turmoil, but it’s also a time when it will be necessary for fathers to focus on playing catch-up as a parent.  It isn’t that fathers are less capable than mothers; it’s that in many cases they don’t automatically know exactly how to care for children.  Neither did Mom; she’s just had a head start in practicing the parenting game.  A divorced father coming out of a traditional marriage may at first be at a disadvantage with his parenting skills.  But most men can easlity learn how to shop, cook, feed, give baths, and help with homework within six to twelve months.

Many men feel overwhelmed after a marital breakup — adrift in a sea of legal, economic, and emotional entanglements.  This book can serve as an anchor; it supports fathers by offering advice on how to share the responsibility of raising children with the least amount of conflict.  This book provides all the information needed so they can play on a level field as parents, and “win” as fathers.

Be a Great Divorced Dad has been written for men by a man.  It presents the best approaches I have learned on how single-parent fathers can deal with their greatest fears:

• That their children will grow up damaged by the divorce;
• That their children will not want to be with them;
• That they will not have enough time with their children to influence and guide them through life.

This book will help fathers face these fears and take positive action.

I’m often asked how I’m able to cope with the endless unhappy stories I hear each day from fathers who are divorced or in the process of getting a divorce.  Helping families find solutions for themselves to challenging problems is what has given me the most satisfaction.  This book collects the experiences of the many divorced fathers — and their children — whom I have counseled over the years.  It is filled with their voices.

Available at all major book stores

[ Article by Ken Condrell | DrCondrell.com ]

The #1 New York Times bestselling memoir and blockbuster movie starring Will Smith – inspired millions of people and brought Chris Gardner sudden fame. Thousands of fans all over the world contacted him, sharing their own stories of struggle and triumph and asking him two important questions: “How did you do it?” and “How can I do it too?” And now, as countless people are being forced to start over, Chris is approached and asked the keys to success on a daily basis.At last Chris Gardner shares his philosophies on, and the crucial steps behind, creating a fulfilling, successful life in Start Where You Are: Life Lessons in Getting From Where You Are to Where You Want to Be. Having conquered seemingly impossible challenges on his way to becoming a profitable entrepreneur, popular speaker and dedicated activist, Gardner’s aim in Start Where You Are is to give back by motivating others to claim ownership of their dreams and achieve their full potential – beginning right now and capitalizing on the resources already in place while building towards bigger goals and ambitions.The book provides a much-needed blueprint for navigating this tumultuous time with positivity, courage, tenacity, discipline and common sense. Distilling his beliefs into 44 profound yet accessible chapters, Gardner offers practical advice for tackling life’s problems and seizing its opportunities, all with his trademark humor and “tell it like it is” attitude. He begins by encouraging readers to “Find Your Button,” what they love to do, what excites them, and advises that without this passion they are doomed for unfulfillment. Now is the time for dreaming big, transferring your skills and using your experience – which no pink slip can take away from you. But, Gardner cautions, net worth does not equal self worth so “Find Out Your ‘Why’” and don’t pursue anything for the money alone.

Other core principles include “Baby Steps Count Too, As Long As You Go Forward,” “No Test, No Testimony,” “The Law of Hard Work Is No Secret,” “Learn the Ropes First, Then Conquer Rome” and “Don’t Postpone Joy.” Whether facing a layoff, struggling with fallout from the past, considering a career change or looking for true fulfillment outside of the office, readers of Start Where You Are will be empowered with the tools they need to follow Chris Gardner’s inspiring, encouraging lead and undertake their own personal pursuit of happyness. Upbeat and uplifting, the book puts forth a clear-cut plan anyone can use to transform vague hopes into concrete realities.

Start Where You Are By Chris Gardner with Mim Eichler Rivas

Amistad/HarperCollins; 320 pages; $26.95 Hardcover

ISBN-10: 006153711X
ISBN-13: 978-0061537110

[ Article by | ChrisGardnerMedia.com ]